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Can Glamour Photography Help to Improve Your Marriage?

Despite what most people think, the vast majority of our clients are housewives who wish to make a special gift of a glamour or boudoir photo session for their husbands. The reasons are varied as some are doing it as a secret surprise, some with the support of their husband and some come to shoot with their husbands for romantic couples photos. But there are a significant percentage of women who come to us because they are wanting to improve their marriages.

Despite what most people think, the vast majority of our clients are housewives who wish to make a special gift of a glamour or boudoir photo session for their husbands. The reasons are varied as some are doing it as a secret surprise, some with the support of their husband and some come to shoot with their husbands for romantic couples photos. But there are a significant percentage of women who come to us because they are wanting to improve their marriages.

How can glamour or boudoir photography help? To understand, we need to first look at what problems people commonly experience and how they relate to this field.

It is a fact of life that having children can be very hard on a woman’s body. Scars from cesarean sections, stretch marks, folds of skin or other issues related to childbirth can be devastating to the self-esteem of the mother. Additionally, children can demand a great deal of care and attention, especially in the early years, and it is very common for intimacy between couples to wane during the pregnancy and afterwards as well. This is a huge change for many couples that can create tension and anxiety for both partners.

Having healthy self-esteem is crucial to the emotional health of any marriage. Many times the wife feels that her husband is no longer attracted to her. She looks in the mirror and sees an image of herself that is hideously distorted from reality. In some cases, the resulting damage to her self esteem can be so great that she will no longer wish her husband to look at her or even touch her, especially in the stomach area. Since intimacy has declined or stopped for many months, usually due to the changes in her hormonal balance, it becomes very easy to continue this abstinence long after the hormones have become more balanced and the demand from the child is not as great.

Many men feel cheated when their wife becomes pregnant. They feel unfairly cut off from intimacy and sometimes get the feeling that the love that was once offered has been taken away and given instead to the child. They can become bitter and resentful, feeling that they have become merely a support system for the family instead of an active part of it.

Of course, this does not happen in all cases and the degree and amount of issues between couples vary widely. In most cases, the husband becomes actively involved in the child rearing process and feels more fulfilled than before. But this article is about the exceptions, not the norm. In some cases, the psychological problems can become so extreme as to actually threaten the marriage.

Even if the husband is a saint in understanding, supporting and caring for his wife and new child, many women still cannot shake her own feelings about herself as a result of their life changes.

Glamour and boudoir photography can become a powerful therapeutic tool in helping couples get back on track to experiencing the intimacy that has been lost. The primary benefit is to help women dispel the negative image they have of themselves. In most cases, the husband loves his wife dearly and has tried in vain to convince her that he is still attracted to her and sees her as the beautiful and vibrant woman that she is. But many women are not convinced, believing instead that these are empty words spoken to appease her and that she can “see for herself” in the mirror the real truth. We are often our own worst critics.

For this reason, it is often the husband, not the wife, who approaches us with the interest in doing glamour or boudoir photography. Some times it takes a great deal of convincing and often the wife reluctantly agrees to come to the consultation to please her husband but has no intention of actually going through with the boudoir photo session.

Our free consultation is a vital part of all of our work with our clients, regardless of the reasons they come to us. But in the case of couples who are trying to help their marriage, it is especially important. We are extremely sensitive to what issues couples may have and by meeting with us and talking openly about these concerns, we can best understand how to approach the session. For wives who are uncertain or opposed to the idea, we point out that we have a 100% satisfaction guarantee, and if, after viewing the results from the session, they are not totally ecstatic with the results, we will refund every cent they spent. We then point out that glamour and boudoir photography is not necessarily about doing nudes, or even photos that are particularly revealing, but that glamour and boudoir photography is like good clothes, to show their best features and hide their worst. It is about showing them their true inner beauty and that the issues that they see in themselves are not as serious as they think they are.

While it is common for professional glamour photos to be retouched, we do not wish to go so far as to change how our clients really look. But retouching can be an invaluable tool in hiding scars or stretch marks, or even doing a little nip and tuck if necessary. Nobody has perfectly even toned skin, and so basic retouching is a standard process for all of our clients. The fact is that even supermodels have basic retouching done on their images prior to the images being used in magazines or other advertisements. It’s just what is expected from professional glamour photography.

But even at the viewing of the boudoir photo shoot images, before any retouching has been done, most clients are amazed at how good they look. It is not possible to overstate the therapeutic effect this has on so many people. Instead of looking in a bathroom mirror with the worst light possible, they are able to see themselves as they really are. They can see themselves through the eyes of their husband and understand that the self-image they have been holding on to is a delusion caused by the emotional upheaval they have had in their lives.