Many men feel cheated when their wife becomes pregnant. They feel unfairly cut off from intimacy and sometimes get the feeling that the love that was once offered has been taken away and given instead to the child. They can become bitter and resentful, feeling that they have become merely a support system for the family instead of an active part of it.

Of course, this does not happen in all cases and the degree and amount of issues between couples vary widely. In most cases, the husband becomes actively involved in the child rearing process and feels more fulfilled than before. But this article is about the exceptions, not the norm. In some cases, the psychological problems can become so extreme as to actually threaten the marriage.

Even if the husband is a saint in understanding, supporting and caring for his wife and new child, many women still cannot shake her own feelings about herself as a result of their life changes.

Glamour photography can become a powerful therapeutic tool in helping couples get back on track to experiencing the intimacy that has been lost. The primary benefit is to help women dispel the negative image they have of themselves. In most cases, the husband loves his wife dearly and has tried in vain to convince her that he is still attracted to her and sees her as the beautiful and vibrant woman that she is. But many women are not convinced, believing instead that these are empty words spoken to appease her and that she can “see for herself” in the mirror the real truth. We are often our own worst critics.

For this reason, it is often the husband, not the wife, who approaches us with the interest in doing glamour photography. Some times it takes a great deal of convincing and often the wife reluctantly agrees to come to the consultation to please her husband but has no intention of actually going through with the photo session.

Our free consultation is a vital part of all of our work with our clients, regardless of the reasons they come to us. But in the case of couples who are trying to help their marriage, it is especially important. We are extremely sensitive to what issues couples may have and by meeting with us and talking openly about these concerns, we can best understand how to approach the session. For wives who are uncertain or opposed to the idea, we point out that we have a 100% satisfaction guarantee, and if, after viewing the results from the session, they are not totally ecstatic with the results, we will refund every cent they spent. We then point out that glamour photography is not necessarily about doing nudes, or even photos that are particularly revealing, but that glamour photography is like good clothes, to show their best features and hide their worst. It is about showing them their true inner beauty and that the issues that they see in themselves are not as serious as they think they are.

While it is common for professional photos to be retouched, we do not wish to go so far as to change how our clients really look. But retouching can be an invaluable tool in hiding scars or stretch marks, or even doing a little nip and tuck if necessary. Nobody has perfectly even toned skin, and so basic retouching is a standard process for all of our clients. The fact is that even supermodels have basic retouching done on their images prior to the images being used in magazines or other advertisements. It’s just what is expected from professional photography.

But even at the viewing of the photo shoot images, before any retouching has been done, most clients are amazed at how good they look. It is not possible to overstate the therapeutic effect this has on so many people. Instead of looking in a bathroom mirror with the worst light possible, they are able to see themselves as they really are. They can see themselves through the eyes of their husband and understand that the self-image they have been holding on to is a delusion caused by the emotional upheaval they have had in their lives.

The results can be astounding. One client (name withheld) had this to say about the results of her glamour photo session:

“I am writing to thank you for the amazing work you and Oleanna did for us. You may find this hard to believe, but these photos have changed our life. The reason I was crying at the viewing was because I couldn’t believe that I looked that good! But (name withheld) told me that this was exactly how he saw me every day and that he was so thrilled that I was able to see myself through his eyes. These images are so artistic and so beautiful. The negative feelings that I have had about myself get smaller every time we look at them. It is like a weight has been lifted from our shoulders. We have found the closeness that was lost and I know now that had we not done this, our marriage could easily have continued to go down hill. We both want to thank you so much! We will be back to get some prenatal shots in a few months! That’s right! I am pregnant again and we are both so thrilled. Give Oleanna a huge hug from us, she was so amazing and helped me to feel so comfortable.

Best Wishes, (name withheld)”

Letters such as these are not uncommon. Every client has a different story and different results, but overwhelmingly we hear of how glamour photography was the catalyst that helped them to revitalize the passion and intimacy that they both missed.

Of course, each situation is unique but if any of the above seems at all familiar, you might want to consider the power of glamour photography as a therapeutic tool. Talk it over with your husband or wife to see if this is something you would like to try. We would urge you to at least book a free consultation to chat with us before making your final decision. It could be exactly what your marriage needs at this time.

Respect, trust, confidentiality, discretion and comfort are the bywords of our business. You can trust us to listen with compassion and understanding to try and help you both the best way we can.